Is this how people define us???

I was watching the news this morning and something caught my attention...

The first story the reporter said Father of 7 pulls gun on son, I thought OK how does that guy get 7 kids when someone do not have one or like me 2. I would never do that to DD, I hardly ever yell at her. SO I am getting dressed they are doing the story, then the next story comes on...

Mother of 2 get hit by a car... My head started spinning, is this how society defines us, Mother of 2, Father of 7... Why could they not have said, Man pulls gun on Son or Women gets struck by the car. I know they are trying to make the story more personable, but come on. Are they going to say for a childless women, childless women gets hit by a car, or infertile women gets robbed, NOPE.

I am not sure why this bothered me so much (maybe it was the back to back stories starting out the same way - Maybe it's the drugs), for I can be defined that way too, and like it, Mother of One, but I would perfer Mother of 2. But there are other things that define me too, wife, daughter, sister, counselor, student, business women.

After the two stories and I started to think about what happens if we can not have more children, are we always going to be the couple who could not have more children but wanted them desperately. I also started to think about DD going to kindergarden and all the MOMs there with their toddlers and asking me why I do not have more, what will I say - I am broken? I recently read something the other day about a lady who wanted more children, they were only able to have one and sometimes she feels like others look at her like she was selfish for only having one child, when the truth was she could not have more... Will that be me? I did get to talk with a friend of mine at work today, I do not see her often for we are in different buildings, but it was nice to vent, at the beginning of the conversation, she said the dreaded, just stop and it will happen and at the end of my venting session, she told me she believes it will happen for us, just have HOPE. She only has one child, by choice and says she does think about what if we have another, even though she knows she will not have more her DHhad the big V, one is enough for her. She is making it work with one child, can I do that too and be at peace, I am not sure, because I think I would be filled with regret.

On a happier note, I got my Fertility Yoga DVD today and can not wait to try it. Maybe tonight maybe tomorrow but ASAP. I need so relaxing workouts and lved yoga i the past. Thanks Steph for the suggestion.