We had Camryn's two week appt today and she only gained 3 ozs and still is way below birth weight, she now weights 7lbs 14ozs. Now I know it is good that she gained something but the Pedi did not think it was enough... So she suggested I wake DD every 2 1/2 hours instead of every 3 and feed her during the day and allow her to sleep the 5 hour stretch at night. Camryn is a very quiet baby and seems so happy and we have to wake her to eat sometimes but I thought she was getting enough. I felt like crying right there in the room, now my Pedi I respect alot my job works closely with her with our clients so she knows me, but at one point Avery walked over to Camryn and grabbed her hand to kiss it and she told DD to be gentle with the baby it was not in a kind way (at least I thought), she did not yell at her but kind of snapped at her. I was so upset about the BFing and not gaining weight I over looked what Avery was doing, she does man handle the baby, but we always remind her that she needs to be gentle. She also commented that Avery seemed a little jealous of the baby. Which I do not see either, she always wants to help and is normally very clingy to me.
So basically I walked out of there feeling like a horrible Mom, not only my newborn is not gaining weight and that was my fault b/c I am the one giving her her nourishment but now my DD was labeled as jealous of the baby. All I wanted to do was go home cry and give my baby a bottle of formula which I did not do, I went to kmart and used a gift card to buy diapers and took both girls back to my parents (no one was home) and feed my baby until it was time to go to my work's graduation dinner again with kids in tow b.c DH was at work.
So I am going to try feeding Camryn every 2 - 2 1/2 hours and keep the formula feeding out of my mind for now.
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First of all, you are a good mommy...
Secondly, I'm sure Avery was just being a 3-year old and only you really know how she's interacting.
Thirdly, a breast-fed baby can take 3 weeks to get to their birth weight. If you are concerned check back in with your lactation consultants. Our hospital actually has a drop in every other week to have the baby weighed. I'm sure they would offer you some great tips.
That said, I did have to wake Graham to eat because he just wasn't interested and didn't nurse long enough to get the fatty hind milk.
Hang in there!!!
i'm sorry ((HUGS)) that had to be so frustrating! You are a great mommy! And seriously, how is kissing Camryn's hand showing her jealousy?
Oh sweetie, you are a GREAT mommy...don't ley ANYONE make you feel otherwise.
I know Camryn will gain weight and, I know I'm no expert, but isn't it pretty normal for the older sibling to feeling just a little jealous of their baby sibling? It sounds like she was just being a sweet older sister, but even if she was just a tad jealous isn't that normal?
At any rate...you're a great mommy!!! ((HUGS))
I am so sorry that your appointment turned out to be so upsetting.((HUGS))
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